Good Enough

I've read loads of books on parenting and been on a few courses over the years, and one of the best training was the Circle of Security course. I highly recommend it!

What made it so refreshing and successful, in my opinion, is that it turned the focus not on what my children were doing (or not), but rather back onto me and what I bring as a mother.

Big stuff really - going all the way back into my childhood and the significant relationships, my strengths and weakness and how they play out in my parenting. It seems so obvious but in all the other teachings I had studied, none had put such an emphasis on my history.

At the heart of the course was accepting that I'm a good enough parent. Not perfect (that's impossible) - as good enough is in fact perfect!

The course was healing in so many ways and like all the issues in life we’re challenged to readdress for our greater good and growth, it was about recognising the worn out patterns, what I bring to the relationship dynamic. The behaviours that might have served me as a child, certainly couldn’t cut-it as a parent.

This course was also as much about giving space for these realisations to surface and a reminder that making time for your own healing is so important - not just for you as an individual - but for those you love, who you have the most contact. The best version of you, is the one who can respond, not react in the moment by triggers that are decades old.

Whether you're a parent or not is irrelevant, you have relationships and care for others in some capacity and the truth we know, is that you can't care for another, unless you're caring for yourself first.

The course was also a great reminder that perfection is not the key, goodness is. So take some pressure off your current mind consuming situation and ask yourself where are you good enough at this moment?